Never Ending Story

Another six months has flown by. I kept to my goal and there’s now a house on the land in north Georgia. I designed it after an 1850’s salt box farmhouse but with all the modern technology and energy saving items in side. Its on 3 levels with 512 square feet per level. ITs a cozy house with maximum use of space to keep the ambient temperature fairly constant inside. It was not an arduous process nor was it difficult. I knew what I wanted and made decisions based on the design and what was in my vision. It was completed on Thanksgiving weekend and I will be heading back up there for awhile to get the interior finished to save a good chunk of money.

I just wanted to come on here and check my mail, approve comments and see what was going on since it has been way too long. I have attended several leather events across Georgia, Florida and Indiana. My greatest joy came about a month ago when I was requested to be on an elders panel of those in the community a very long time. I love sharing my experiences with others; not because I think I’m  know it all….because I like to give others information and knowledge about a time that is gone by. If anyone out there tells you that THEIR point of view is the only worthwhile one then steer clear of them. No one can walk a mile in your journey nor has the right to tell you how to walk through it. Steer away from trouble makers, drama creators and those who borrow money and promise to repay it but never do. I know several who have borrowed large sums of money and to this day have never repayed it. Thankfully when I was hit up for it I said NO! I’d still be waiting for it. We have a few of those in the leather community. There are many unscrupulous characters who do for the community at the price of the community being robbed. Many times, Leather has become the cesspool for those who don’t identify as vanilla and these people end up doing a ton of damage. I have met quite a number of mentally unstable guys and some really screwed up dynamics that are destructive, not necessarily to the relationship but to everyone around them. You have to be in a clique and play ball the way you are told other wise you are ostracized.

It does do me a world of good to see my leather family from around the country at these smaller events. You get a chance to bond and connect with them in a way you cant in a large event. I have met some incredible selfless leather men who I connected to and I can say they are my friends now and I look forward to seeing them all again soon. I am surrounding myself with men like this and leaving what is bad a far away from me as I possibly can. I now have quite a number of fantastic leathermen and women in my circle of friends and I  am grateful for them all since my family is all dead now. In my mind, I keep thinking of the Disney movie, Meet the Robinson’s. The man theme fo that animated film for those of you who havent seen it; KEEP MOVING FORWARD! With that I am moving myself into bed. Peace to you all and to all a good night!

 

Bigger is NOT Better

I arrived home this afternoon after a fantastic weekend at the Tampa Leather Club’s Leather SIR/boy Contest. I always come back with a feeling of renewal and rebirth. When I come back from HUGE events such as IML or MAL,  I feel a bit underwhelmed and left with a hungry feeling;  like I haven’t had enough to eat.

The reason I feel this way is because at these giant behemoths of leather, you don’t truly get to KNOW anyone. It’s a cruise in passing or running off to here or there. At these smaller events or runs you get to spend time with other men and women in leather who share so much common ground.  There is a chance to actually sit down and not only make small talk but to have a meal, to enjoy the company of others who feel as you do for hours. The guys tend to hang out with you and really talk. You hear a story, you hear a history, you hear a life without sonic booming music or thousands of others which can get VERY distracting every time you move your heard to see who’s who or who’s hot. You end up resembling Linda Blair in the exorcist with your head spinning around in a 360. all that’s missing is  the split pea soup.

My favorite event and runs SO far, are the Trident Knights run in August in Augusta Georgia, The Tradesmen Leather Run in May in Charlotte NC, Mr SECC in February in Augusta Georgia,  and the Tennessee Gryphon’s in July in Greeneville Tn. and now the Tampa Leather Clubs Leather SIR/boy contest.

I am sure there are many others but I haven’t gotten to them …YET

The best part is I can go to ten of these smaller events for the same amount of money that it would take to go to ONE IML or MAL. I prefer the smaller events. The enormity of the others is not what I visualize as the community for me. Its a place to get laid, buy leather off the rack, look at porn stars and hot men with steroid muscles wearing couture leather to accentuate those muscles and spend a ton of money in ONE event  rather than supporting ten venues who could really use my support and meeting GENUINE leathermen that DO come in all shapes, looks and sizes. These are the ones I will choose to continue to go to.