I thought I would be better at keeping up my blog but many times by night I am really tired. I have one year left of coursework for my Ph.D. After coursework I take the exam and then the dissertation. The road I am on is very lonely and you can be in a relationship and not only feel alone but you can feel lonely. All the people that knew me my first go around in studies are all dead and people today will give you a few seconds of kind words and then poof they be gone. Culture has certainly changed a lot. Not sure I like how it has evolved, especially when you have a significant amount of people on anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications. When you see statistics this large, you realize (or at least I do) that we have an enormous problem. My support system is nothing of what it used to be and I’m not sure its my fault. One can reach out to people but if they cant be bothered with you then you move on. Everyone seems to be so self involved; usually with their phones. That seems to be the major relationship everyone is involved with now…..their phones, ipads, ipods. I learned that you never go where you aren’t invited or wanted. Since phones are a solitary device for the most part, you are alone and the more alone and isolated we become the more anxiety and depression will proliferate and I believe its going to get MUCH MUCH worse within the next 5 years. Technology is to assist us not take over as the main mode of communication between people. Have you noticed that people don’t converse anymore? You go out to a bar and everyone is on their phones texting to the guy they want to meet from 10 feet away. Yeah people, we are in a heap of trouble. No one even calls anyone anymore; they text. They propose marriage over a text, they break up over a text, they fight through texting, they make important announcements through texting. No one hears any human voice anymore. you have a computerized voice to tell you where such and such place is. You don’t even talk to an operator anymore to get a number or to ask for directions at a gas station. You TEXT to get answers for everything. This in my estimation is NOT good at all! The human system is broken and we have allowed technology to break us. Rather than have technology be OUR servant it has become our MASTER! Leather groups are becoming less and less, and the only way the “community” gets together is through a contest with brings in the green (money). Leather has become big business and the producers and vendors know it…OHHH they know it. If a producer is losing money year after year that he digs deep into his own pocket to keep a contest going, so much that he has to work all year to produce his contest, he would get tired and stop. The fact that they don’t, means they are pulling profit. NO ONE is going to keep a contest going for 5 or ten years when they have to work at their full time job to keep the contest going because it loses substantial money EVERY year. That don’t make sense and no one loves their community THAT much even when the producer whines about all the money he’s losing just to keep the contest going! REALLY? So you lose money EVERY year and you work at your job to pay rent food car etc., AND to keep the contest alive? When pressed for a response I get them to admit that well not EVERY year. Sometimes they break even and sometimes they pull in good money.. THANK YOU!! I know a guy who ran a contest and was able to lease new cars to travel all over the place to keep his contest in the public eye but the title holder got NOTHING for his travel fund. He gave nothing to his community but kept his pockets ample! I don’t bother much anymore with what I see. I cant change it but I remain true to who I am and that’s the best I can do. I have wonderful memories that no one is interested in hearing because it doesn’t exist anymore and no one is interested in trying to get back to basics. Too much business and money involved. Leather groups used to be very social within their community. Now they are concentric circles of emotional and sometimes sexual incest. IF you don’t bring in new people then you have this small clique of guys who tend to keep everyone out and never reach out to their community. IF they are solely a social group, they don’t have open social events for others to maybe want to join because they’re too busy and focused on keeping the circle closed. They usually die out because there’s no growth. They pat each other on the back when they really do nothing for anyone but themselves. Yes things have changed a TON! There has to be a way around this.. I just haven’t been able to figure it out….YET.
I moved my new boy into my bedroom a month ago and he was on his phone non stop He is o let 19 and they all do it. But I banned the phone in the house I’ve seen a huge improvement. In his communication. And our sex life has improved too I suggest all dads. Ban their boys from using their phones
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Like you I’ve had technology grow up around me rather than growing up surrounded by technology. My solution has been to bring those around me out of the immersion in technology. So here I am on the net so what do I mean as I obviously use technology.
As I write this I’m the only-one in the house that’s awake. All my friends know that texting is like a letter, I’ll open it when I have the time to give it my full attention, sometimes in the next 24 hours. My phones (landline and cell) function as answering machines and filter nearly all calls, they work for me – I don’t work for them. My default ring tone on my cellphone is silence, the few individuals that I’ve decided I need to respond to quickly have been given actual ring tones – all other calls go to the answering machine. The message clearly states that if I didn’t answer I’m either not available (driving or talking face to face with a person directly in front of me, or I don’t know the caller and the call is being screened so leave a message and I’ll get back when I can.)
If you’re with me I expect you to follow the same rules of conduct.
When I’m online like now, that’s my time so if you see me online and message me the same rules apply as above, I’ll get back to you within 24 hours when I can give your message the attention you deserve.
If you are with me, my computer is off – unless we are both watching some streaming service watching a movie.
Live people in front of my always have priority, it’s both good manners and a sign of respect all people deserve.
I hope this helps,
I haven’t found a leather community of ANY sort yet. What I’ve found is a new culture of “boys” who make up the rules for themselves. There isn’t any mentoring happening for either side. There are excellent leather folk out there but very hard to find.
Hahaha… Do we all think the same? Then who is left doing what we loathe?
I’m linking you in my app posts on http://www.domquixote.eu and will add you to my leather links. Nice to meet you.
Thank you..I appreciate the link!!
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Hello, Sir! 😛
Just now found Your Blog, which is Very Nice and Powerful. Just wanted to say on this post, I understand and feel what You are talking about. I am doing my Master’s Thesis at the moment. Just wanted to say also, that Great to always study in any case, and You will get there to Your goals soon! Have a Very Nice Week, Sir! 😛
– boi L 🙂
P.S. You don’t happen to have a Tumblr or a Twitter account, do You, Sir?
Thnks for the message boi…yes I do actually. Twitter its @jimgym and I have tumblr but I never use it..
Thank You! 😛